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You hear over and over again from people that they are afraid of failure. Of what others think of them if they failed. Afraid to endure the pain of falling short, if you are or you know someone, start thinking about how failure can be your teacher.
If you don’t take any action, and feel paralyzed, you know it sucks, but let it teach you and not paralyze us.
Failure is rooted in perfection tendencies. Perfectionists never feel good enough, and when they make a mistake, it’s enough to take them to self-criticism and shame. Sometimes, it stops them from doing anything at all.
Sometimes fear of failure is rooted in perfectionist tendencies. At their core, perfectionists never feel good enough. When they realize they’ve made a mistake, it’s enough to take them down a spiral of self-criticism shame. Often times, this stops perfectionists from doing anything at all.
It also makes people lazy. Read our article on how not to be lazy.
A perfectionist can hurt your health, career, and relationship. You don’t reach for your goals. Compounding this into internal judgment and negative dialog within yourself. However, failure can teach you more about life than constant success.
There is hope, if you are a perfectionist, you can change your tendencies by embracing your limitations and failures. it’s going to take patience, but it can be learned.
Here are 5 ways you can become less of a perfectionist
1. Stop performing
Aim for genuineness and not perfection. Make you feel more grounded and capable of accepting failures. As a perfectionist, it can be addictive to think you are amazing, and constantly trying to make everything polished and perfect. Be you, a human being, ready to make mistakes and stop the performance.
2. You will make mistakes
Let yourself screw up, and don’t take yourself too seriously. Maybe have fun with it, create a habit of doing something and fail.
3. Mistakes are opportunities
See mistakes as opportunities, how did you fail? What steps did you take and think about what things you could have done to avoid them? Why not try again using different methods? There’s always something to be gained in failure.
4. Your strengths and limitations
Learn your strengths and limitations, you can realize that your weakness can be your greatest strength. I personally have a very addictive mindset, I refrain from gambling but I will do certain things excessively. I channel that weakness to something productive. I can write for hours and can’t give up because of my addiction to a certain goal. I also do not like talking or having a conversation. So I use the word “why” when I am in a conversation to keep the conversation going. It almost feels like listening more than talking.
Identify your strengths and limitation. Weakness is not “weak” per se. You can admit failure or use your strength to overcome them or use your weakness and turn it around.